It really comes down to what's in our hearts. Our thoughts reflect our heart. Once we truly believe what the Lord says, the enemy has nothing he can do to us. Until then, he can give us trials in every area while we figure out whether we believe God or not. Thankfully the Lord already knows how He is going to work out His tests and our enemy's trials and tribulations in our lives. That said, we have a part to play in how long we're going through the thing we've decided is our current personal hell. That part is how we choose to look at it, think about it, and talk about it.
I do very much believe that grumbling and complaining about everything prevents us from walking in the truth of what the Lord has done for us and in us. It also keeps the enemy hooks in our lives quite firmly making his lies appear all the more true. It's secularly proven that we believe what we hear ourselves say, so SHUT UP with the self-defeating talk people (said super lovingly!!!!).
We need to be doers of the word instead of just hearers only… no angel, human, nor even God himself, is going to do what he is set forth biblically as our part in this beautiful relationship He has designed with us. We can be overcomers by the blood of the lamb AND the word of our testimony, or we can continue to sit and complain that things are so hard while we wait for him to give us a miracle on our terms. Proverbs 23:7a For as he thinks within himself, so he is. Our behavior follows our thoughts, so we need to set our minds on the Lord and His truth. Until then, we're constantly in a battle of our flesh versus our spirit.
He's not angry with us though ! He knows our weaknesses and He’s allowing us to choose to stand on His truth or choose to go around the mountain again and again like we enjoy it or something.
The Lord gave me a picture : Huge mountain, with a few cliffs to rest on in various places. We are standing at the bottom looking up and saying "Wow, too hard, there’s no way! Lord just place me at the top near you, I can’t do the climb." The Lord says “You can’t stay at the top if you don’t climb though, that’s how you get your hinds feet which allow you stay up here. If I place you here, you’ll just fall and that will be more harmful than just staying where you’re at. His children respond "Ok Lord, if that’s how it’s got to be, I’ll just start walking around the mountain AGAIN until you change your mind. I told you it’s just too hard for me."
The Lord with tears in His eyes “My child, just follow my Spirit. I will take you up the mountain strategically, allowing you to rest after each victory before climbing more. You’ll be here before you know it”. Us: "Lord it sounds good and all, but I just can’t yet. Give me more of your grace and strength so I can... "
The Lord: "My child, I’ve given you everything. There’s nothing left that can be done to help you. Believe Me, trust Me, and follow Me. There’s only one way to victory, but lots of mind numbing circles to defeat. You CAN trust Me. Declare Phil 1:6, 2:13-14, 4:13 over yourself and just keep looking up to Me.